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RE: I am not your father

“My family is not your paternal family. If you have a second parent, embrace them. I am not your parent. I am not your father. You have my genes. Thats it.” AWESOME! I have your genes!?! wow. I feel fantastically special… Oh… wait.. you just said your family isnt my paternal family. Hate to break it to you buddy, but whether you want to believe it or not, you ARE my paternal father. IF I have a second parent? I don’t. I have had a single, hard working mother my whole life, and because of the fact that I don’t…

Anonymous embryos waiting (are they really?)

My third try on embryo adoption has just failed..I started googling the subject a bit more and found this site.And -still devastated as I was because of my inability to get pregnant – I kind of stopped in my frantic search for answers why it actually failed and started to see another perspective. Well, it was supposed to be an ideal of two worlds: give birth to your adopted kid plus you never need to go through the complex procedures or bother about any biological parents in the background as they didn’t care enough to let their genetic offspring know…

Unfair

Nothing about my conception will ever be fair, and that’s the horrible yet honest truth to it all. At first, all I wanted was the little details about him. I wanted to know the color of his eyes when he stared back at someone else. I wished I didn’t have to imagine the skin tone he had. I wondered what color his hair was. Ultimately, I came to the decision that those details would be enough, at least enough to tide me over. That right there is the issue actually, the fact that all those details are ever going to…

Re: “I Am Not Your Father”

I’m not the respondent you were you replying to, but I am a child of donor conception, outraged by your brazen insensitivity. If your genetic profile matches my paternity, then yes you are my father. That’s how it works, pal. I’m sorry you didn’t learn that in biology class 101, but whoever provided the sperm to create the child, is the child’s biological father. It is not a matter of trading, giving away, or signing over paternal responsibilities in exchange of money. This is nature. Take responsibility for the mess you’ve put your biological children through instead of facing their…

RE: I AM NOT YOUR FATHER

I want to clear some things up. 1). We are very much an object. You sold your sperm to a cryobank that profits billions of dollars from the parent(s) that buy their products. Our conception came out of money. 2). We lack resources. The one fundamental resource that we do not have access to is our family history/medical history/biological origins. One of the most priceless of resources that we are denied. 3). On the contrary, we have MORE siblings. We have several unknown siblings that, under the law, we have no right to know. Do you understand that loss? Of…

I am considering donor egg IVF and dislike anonymity

I agree with those of you trying to search for identity of your donors. I myself considered to donate eggs long time ago and wanted to leave my details, and almost looked forward to see someone contacting me later to tell them ‘I thought of you and loved you in some way all those years’…it did not happen, I didn’t pursue this action and continued focusing on my career.Now Im in need of a donnated egg and I DO MISS THIS OPTION of knowing about the donor at least a little (and seeing some features) and having access to her…

I am not your father

To the respondant of my message ‘with love, 120S’ I did not ‘father’ you. I allowed loving people to have their dream, a child, you. I helped your parents become parents. No child gets to pick their parents. You are no more an object than any other child. All children are objects in their parents world. You are front and centre. You would not be traded for all the world. You will be adored by people tuely want YOU. You are even more loved, and wanted, than a biologically standard child. Your parent(s) put in far more effort. A child…

Towards openness – my donor conceived past

Towards openness – my donor conceived past. For me, my donor conception represents both life and death. The death part is the part that I grieve first. It is the power of secrets and the lengths that people can go to move away from rather than toward openness. This part is about my father, and the dilemmas this caused for him. After separating from my mother when I was 8, he found himself in a world where, at some point she would meet another and this person would know the ultimate secret in his life. The secret of myself and…

What have I done??

I’m the mother of 2 donor conceived little Boys. I’m most likely the enemy image of many of you. After many years of trying, we were told that only donated eggs can help us. And we went on; we were so naive, we thought that everything will be all right as long as we love the child. And we did and still do; more than words can tell….and we even went on and had another “donated child”. And now I’m sitting here in tears. What have I done… How could I be so naive and selfish. When I read through…

Curiosity

I was always somewhat curious about the other half of my DNA. But I was never curious enough, or I guess you could say brave enough, to pursue a search of any kind. I was informed by my mother that I was a donor conceived child when I was still in elementary school. I took the news pretty well and didn’t think of my adopted father any differently. He was my dad ever since I could really remember, so being donor conceived didn’t change any of that. My mother had chosen to purchase sperm from California Cryobank 28 years ago….

IVF mistake

Long story short, I was accidentally conceived with donor sperm. There was a mistake in the lab during the in vitro process. My parents never knew, but they always suspected something was wrong because of how different I looked from my dad. I took a DNA test when I was 16 and we found out that we were not related. The doctors had confused a vial of donor sperm with my dad’s sperm, and after connecting with my donor father through the DSR I have a great relationship with both. I know my situation is very rare but if anyone…

Response to “Do I wait or do I tell?”

I am a PhD Candidate in Clinical Psychology. I am also the mother of a daughter whose father was absent for most of her life. Understanding how she felt at his absence, I personally sought to find him for her, and to her delight, found she had 2 other sisters in addition to the seven siblings I gave her. I can tell you one thing: As a mother, I felt threatened but also knew her hurt. I never wanted her to hurt. That motivated me to help her find the man. Now, I hear your feelings as being that of…