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To the parents who chose to use a donor and now fear you made a mistake after reading some of these stories

Dear parents out there who fear they made the wrong choice not every donor kid grows up to hate the parents who made the choice to use a donor but a lot do. I know you are probably scared that your child will grow up to hate you to but i think it will depend a lot on the choices you make through out your child’s life and weather or not you are honest. Im not going to lie its hard being a donor kid some of the worst memory’s for me was dads day at school where dads come…

I Regret…

I have read through many of the stories and different points of view here. I hope it’s ok but I wanted to post my point of view which is very different from any of the others I’ve read here. I am an older mom of 1 young child conceived of my own egg and my husband’s sperm via IVF. We recognize what a blessing our child is. This may sound very odd to some out there but my regret is that I never donated my eggs. I very badly wanted to donate my eggs, not for the money but for…

A Weird Kind of Closure

I’ve written on here before, when things first got complicated and messy, when I found my biological father by using Google along with the information he shared on his donor papers. Last time I wrote my story, it was one of me freaking out because I had found the man that is the reason I am who I am today. I’s been a few months since I found out, and honestly not a day goes by where I don’t pause and wonder if he thinks about the children he created like me. Not a day goes by where I don’t…

To my donor: it’s not your fault

I used to hate you. Pure and utter hate all because I used to think that the way my life has turned out is all your fault. It’s not your fault, I realize that now. My mom wanted this. She WANTED to raise a child on her own. She wanted me. Now it sort of feels past tense. She wantED me. She wanted me to make her laugh in the mornings as a giggly baby. She wanted me to be the reason she woke up happy and went to sleep feeling like she had a purpose. She wanted me because…

RE: “I AM NOT YOUR FATHER”

You are not my father? Then what the hell are you? I know you are a man that thought you were giving wanna-be moms the greatest gift of all, but that damn well makes you my father. You are so right when you say that children like me are “so much more wanted,” and that right there is the reason I keep my feelings to myself. My mom payed thousands of dollars for my creation, so for me to just tell her that I want to know where half of my DNA has originated, for me to tell her that…

RE: I am not your father

“My family is not your paternal family. If you have a second parent, embrace them. I am not your parent. I am not your father. You have my genes. Thats it.” AWESOME! I have your genes!?! wow. I feel fantastically special… Oh… wait.. you just said your family isnt my paternal family. Hate to break it to you buddy, but whether you want to believe it or not, you ARE my paternal father. IF I have a second parent? I don’t. I have had a single, hard working mother my whole life, and because of the fact that I don’t…

Anonymous embryos waiting (are they really?)

My third try on embryo adoption has just failed..I started googling the subject a bit more and found this site.And -still devastated as I was because of my inability to get pregnant – I kind of stopped in my frantic search for answers why it actually failed and started to see another perspective. Well, it was supposed to be an ideal of two worlds: give birth to your adopted kid plus you never need to go through the complex procedures or bother about any biological parents in the background as they didn’t care enough to let their genetic offspring know…

Unfair

Nothing about my conception will ever be fair, and that’s the horrible yet honest truth to it all. At first, all I wanted was the little details about him. I wanted to know the color of his eyes when he stared back at someone else. I wished I didn’t have to imagine the skin tone he had. I wondered what color his hair was. Ultimately, I came to the decision that those details would be enough, at least enough to tide me over. That right there is the issue actually, the fact that all those details are ever going to…

Re: “I Am Not Your Father”

I’m not the respondent you were you replying to, but I am a child of donor conception, outraged by your brazen insensitivity. If your genetic profile matches my paternity, then yes you are my father. That’s how it works, pal. I’m sorry you didn’t learn that in biology class 101, but whoever provided the sperm to create the child, is the child’s biological father. It is not a matter of trading, giving away, or signing over paternal responsibilities in exchange of money. This is nature. Take responsibility for the mess you’ve put your biological children through instead of facing their…

RE: I AM NOT YOUR FATHER

I want to clear some things up. 1). We are very much an object. You sold your sperm to a cryobank that profits billions of dollars from the parent(s) that buy their products. Our conception came out of money. 2). We lack resources. The one fundamental resource that we do not have access to is our family history/medical history/biological origins. One of the most priceless of resources that we are denied. 3). On the contrary, we have MORE siblings. We have several unknown siblings that, under the law, we have no right to know. Do you understand that loss? Of…

I am considering donor egg IVF and dislike anonymity

I agree with those of you trying to search for identity of your donors. I myself considered to donate eggs long time ago and wanted to leave my details, and almost looked forward to see someone contacting me later to tell them ‘I thought of you and loved you in some way all those years’…it did not happen, I didn’t pursue this action and continued focusing on my career.Now Im in need of a donnated egg and I DO MISS THIS OPTION of knowing about the donor at least a little (and seeing some features) and having access to her…

I am not your father

To the respondant of my message ‘with love, 120S’ I did not ‘father’ you. I allowed loving people to have their dream, a child, you. I helped your parents become parents. No child gets to pick their parents. You are no more an object than any other child. All children are objects in their parents world. You are front and centre. You would not be traded for all the world. You will be adored by people tuely want YOU. You are even more loved, and wanted, than a biologically standard child. Your parent(s) put in far more effort. A child…