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Dear “I WORRY THAT MY CHILD WILL BE UNHAPPY”

I conceived our now nearly 18 year old daughter with the help of anonymous egg donation. We have always been honest about this. When DD was very young and asked about siblings (repeated attempts failed) I told him my belly couldn’t make any more babies and as she grew older I added things like the doctors and a nice lady helped us have you. I always referred to her as our “Miracle Baby.” I think she was starting to learn about biology in elementary school when I elaborated on how the “nice lady helped” she only recently mentions our lack…

Call me Nanny

I only discovered this month, July, 2018, that when my daughter was 23 (1994) she sold her eggs to (probably) a fertility lab in New York City. She was a grad student at the time. When I inadvertently found this out, I was stunned, then sad, then actually grief struck as if someone had died – whereas someone was born, perhaps a number of someones. She would not tell me how many eggs were retrieved, if this is the correct question. She did not want to discuss it. but I cannot stop thinking that I could have grandchildren, a girl,…

At 35 I found out.

My mom disclosed to me at age 35 my sister was donor conceived. Three years later a separate donor contributed to my birth. I never felt close with my dad. I knew we were beyond different. I didn’t have the same characteristics as him. Emotionally, verbally, looks, interests. We never really were close as I grew up. He never taught me how to be a man. Never talked about his past. Never discussed girls. Nothing. I grew up just trial and error. I never felt close to my sister. I always said to my mom, ‘She didn’t like me. We…

Potential Mom

I am a 30yr old single female. I am currently not in any relationship, have not been in one for 7 years, and have no desire for one. Since turning 30, I’ve been struggling with the fact that my single lifestyle choice might mean I’ll never have children, so I’ve been researching sperm donors. I do have some health issues that could affect my ability to get pregnant so I do feel that time is ticking. I am not lonely, and do not want a child because of loneliness. I am also attracted to a different ethnicity and would likely…

Alone

I was conceived using both donor egg and donor sperm. I was raised be a single mother desperate for children. Honestly I can’t understand her choice. She decided to “make” kids that were not her own just so she could have the experience of pregnancy instead of adopting a child that desperately needed a home and would have the same genetic connections to her – none. I feel so alone, the only person I know I am related to is my twin sister, and even we look nothing alike. People don’t even believe we’re twins, they just think that we…

Dear – I’M GOING TO DO IT

Dear – I’m going to do it. I am/was a donor (once a donor always a donor I guess) and I agree very strongly with your perspective. I am of the male side of scenarios like this, and getting bashed for being a donor. You have no reason to feel guilty or be apologetic, and I refuse to accept guilt from my side. You have the same right as any woman to be a mother, and with modern medical technology you can find a man that has the traits you want to see in your child. People have always done…

PLEASE, Just adopt a child in need

Prospective adults of sperm/egg donation, please listen. I’m a DC child and growing up without knowing my father has destroyed me. It has given me depression, anxiety, abandonment issues, “daddy issues” and just every day sadness. I personally think that Anonymous sperm and egg “donation” should be illegal. I know you want that perfect little baby who is biologically yours, but that baby is also 50% some stranger that you and they will never ever get to meet. They will resent you for signing away their rights to meet their father/mother. Adopting a child is so much better for everyone….

Considering conceiving via donor, but worried by testimonies – perspectives?

I am a 37 year old woman considering conceiving a child via a donor, and came on to this site as I wanted to know how donor-conceived children felt about their origin. I am now very concerned having read some of the testimonies on here that it can have a really negative impact on the child – in some cases to the point that they seem to wish they had not been born – and I would like to know further perspectives. In particular I would like to know if there are ways to mitigate the difficulties, for example, being…

It’s not easy – I agree!

My wife and I (hetrosexual couple) have had five tries of ivf and three iui. We’ve had a miscarriage from one ivf at our second scan. That was one of the most painful things to experience. I will never forget the cries of my wife when there was no heartbeat on the scan. I’ve never heard her cry like that before. It was a silent miscarriage, so the foetus had to be removed. We have been suffering trying to get pregnant but our chances are very low. Both of our tests are poor and we have both tried. So to…

Unknown

Hello my name is Liv, I’m from Argentina and was born thanks to an in vitro. Ever since I was little I was told that I wanted to know the identity of the sperm donor, but as my mother could be considered one of the pioneers of such technique is a task quite difficult to achieve. I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have a father that I want to know the identity of simply because I feel that it feels quite strange walking around the city wondering which of the men who are around me could be my…

Dad, not donor

My dad is my biological dad and he raised me. I signed up for a DNA site and found many half siblings. I’m realizing he was a sperm donor before I was born. I have the answers my newly found genetic relatives may be looking for. I haven’t made contact with them. For all they know, my profile is another person who doesn’t know their biological dad. My dad donated with anonymity and still wants that. How could I not respect that? I’ve been trying to learn about this community since I made this discovery. It seems there are varying…

Where’s my happiness?

This would be the first time I express myself. I guess even love can forget that a person exists. Sometimes I question myself if god even listens to me when I cry, pray, or even feel down. I’m getting tired of drinking from the same cup of life, always being fed the lies “love will come your way” or “you’ll meet the right person.” Ive grown to view these quotes as myths, they dont exist, I guess I really dont belong anywhere. I have a crush on this girl whom Iam hoping to have a relationship with but i am…