Potential Mom

Submitted on: September 25, 2018

I am a 30yr old single female. I am currently not in any relationship, have not been in one for 7 years, and have no desire for one. Since turning 30, I’ve been struggling with the fact that my single lifestyle choice might mean I’ll never have children, so I’ve been researching sperm donors. I do have some health issues that could affect my ability to get pregnant so I do feel that time is ticking. I am not lonely, and do not want a child because of loneliness. I am also attracted to a different ethnicity and would likely make a choice including that. I am now at a point where I am second guessing. Reading your stories here and doing other research, I am very concerned that my child would be resentful, especially because they might be mixed race, and they’d never be able to know the other side of them. I would do my best to connect them with the culture, but I know It wouldn’t be the same as having an ethnic parent. I am worried it would be selfish, and I know that child wouldn’t have asked for this life. I am not trying to be disrespectful, so give some advice and guidance. Thank you.