All Anonymous Us Stories

Almost five months ago now I found my bio mom on ancestrydna.com. I messaged her and immediately went from years of pain and wondering (from my strong belief that I would never know her or anything about her) to anxiety that she’d never see, read, or respond to my message. But she did and we have been in contact ever since. It still feels so surreal that if I woke up tomorrow and it was all a dream, I wouldn’t question that though I would be pretty sad. She has been so open to answering my questions and sharing information…

Growing up it was just my mom, my two very involved godparents and me. I always knew I was missing a biological father. I always had to explain to my friends since the age of five why I don’t have a dad. I liked it, I got attention for it as a kid and I barely felt a void. It wasn’t until my teen angst kicked in and I started resenting my mother. I found out she had a choice whether or not to choose and anonymous donor. When I asked her about it she told she didn’t want my…

January of 2019, my boyfriend of a short 4 months purchased me this cool gift where you submit your DNA to a website and it tells you about your ancestry, your traits, and your potential genetic illnesses. One thing that is less advertised, is that it also connects you to the people who share your DNA. Here is my story. I received the results to this 23 and Me test & I eagerly opened it, excited to see what my true background was. I am racially ambiguous, and although we’ve always grown to believe we are bi-racial, 3 quarters black…

We already had a healthy and happy child of our own but we felt our family was not finished. We had personal reasons for this that would be too long to discuss here. We were scared to death of the idea of an egg donor and for a long time it was not an option. It felt wrong, we couldn’t get our heads around the idea. For almost a decade we looked at profiles of egg donors and discussed the issue of egg donors, our feelings, the child, the donor, our family, society, the expense, and so on. Then I…

My best friend in the entire world is adopted and I’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. She was adopted in the 90’s as an infant by an extremely loving couple who have given her the world. Not to mention they are well off and she’s never in her life had to worry about money or lack of opportunity. She has always known she was adopted and her parents have stayed very neutral about her birth parents towards her. When she was entering her teenage years she started having some behavioral issues, most likely from the lack of…

I’m not very good at writing and english is not my first language so this may be short. I’m a daughter of a single mother that chose to have a child through sperm donation. I’ve been conscious of this since I was a small child and when I was younger it didn’t bother me much, you can’t miss what you never had right? I am now 19 and this has changed a little bit. I don’t want a father, I don’t need a father, but I want a face, a name, anything, I know nothing. I’ve tried to talk to…

My partner and I used donor eggs to conceive a baby. Ironically just as our pregnancy was getting started a surprise popped up on my 23AndMe. It turned out that I had an aunt and two uncles I’d never met by way of a grandfather that I’d also never met or even seen a picture of. It turned out I didn’t even know the name [he went by]. My first instinct was to ask her for pictures of my grandfather. He looks a lot like me, and I only look like my mother in my family. It was an interesting…

I’m a woman of a certain age, newly married with 4 biological children of my own. My amazing husband deeply desires a child of his own but my pregnancies have resulted in loss. We currently are considering using a donor egg but something deep inside felt uneasy. I found myself wondering how this will truly affect me, our child and my relationship with my husband. I wanted to know how the children felt about the non biological parent, whether they were happy or hurt and angry. Would my child accept me as their mother or just some woman who gave…

I have known for most of my life that my parents used donor sperm to conceive me, but we never spoke of the fact that I’m donor conceived after the initial conversation. To my parents, it probably appeared that I had zero interest in it. But what they didn’t know is that even as a young kid I had picked up on the fact that they weren’t very comfortable with the topic. If I was asked if I would ever want to know who my biological father was if I could, my answer was, “nope, I’m not curious.” I didn’t…

Egg Donation…funny term..when I think of the word donation, I think of giving something away for free and not profiting monetarily. I am a step mother to a now 4 year old girl that was born through egg donation. Her birth mom was too old to have anymore children at 46….my now husband was 10 years younger than her. He married her while she was 8 months pregnant with his son that was born stillborn due to the umbilical cord. She couldn’t get pregnant after that and it was his mission to have a child of his own (she had…

I recently discovered I have a half sister! I was thrilled and excited to meet her and at first she was reacting with the same enthusiasm. We realized that she was conceived by my father’s infidelity and her birth mom chose to give her up for adoption. Unfortunately, my father can not remember “the details” of this situation or her name. We connected through 23 and me through my children first, then I took the test and we came back as half siblings. I was over joyed to have a sister and we met and it was as if we…

I ended up donating my sperm a few years ago around the same time my daughter and her girlfriend decided they wanted a baby so they got donated sperm. A couple years later they wanted to figure out who the biological father is so they do the whole DNA stuff process and I remembered I had donated my sperm around the same time my daughter got donated sperm so I decided to get a DNA check myself and when the results came in it turned out that the baby was mine I was so fucking disgusted because thats my own…