Biology Matters

Submitted on: February 8, 2018

I am so angry with the hypocrisy of the donors and the mothers. Women choose to conceive via donor sperm because they LONG FOR biological connection with their children. But then we, donor conceived children are expected to pretend that we don’t have a similar DEEP NEED for biological connection with our fathers.

I love my mother (even though I am angry) but I still need to know my father. And my grandparents and cousins and siblings and, and, and. I feel hollow with not-knowing.

I’m also angry with the donors who say biology doesn’t matter. They spread their DNA all over without even knowing how many children are out their fatherless. But look at their family life. Biology matters to them there. The children in their house are fiercely protected and loved. And if a paternity test showed they weren’t really his children? He would be furious with his wife. Oh yes, biology would matter then!

People close their eyes and chant, “It doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter.” But it DOES matter. I matter. We matter.