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My “Biological” Mom Was an Anonymous Egg Donor

At the age of 20, my mom told me out of the blue on a car ride that I am not genetically related to her at all. I was shocked, and although it’s been a week, I still don’t know what to think. I’ve always been fascinated by genetics and knowing my roots, and I feel hurt my mom didn’t tell me sooner. Part of the reason I studied German in college is because of my “maternal grandfather’s” roots, and now I’m at a total loss. Who am I? I’m thankful to know I’m at least related to my dad,…

I never knew I was a donor baby until 33…Tell your kids!!

So, my story is the same in many ways as others on here. However, it’s different in one big way. It all started when I decided to take an Ancestry DNA test. I was primarily concerned with the ethnicity percentages. There had always been a family legend that we had a lot of Native American genes, and I wanted to see how true it was. When the report came back, there were no huge surprises. I was mostly French Canadian, Irish, and then there was inexplicably some southern European, but it was small (9%) so I didn’t think much of…

Dear Current and Prospective Parents, Please Read This

Dear Prospective Parents (and current parents, this is good for you to read too), I understand you want to bring a beautiful, loving child into this world. I understand it’s programmed deep into our psychology and biology. I understand you genuinely believe you will be the best parent in the world and you can do no harm, and you will be so, so, SO loving and as long as you have read a few articles from people who are donor conceived, you’re in the clear. And you might be. Your baby who becomes a kid who becomes an adult could…

Confused Clone

I am writing this very stream of conscious because I am so confused and have no place I feel is a safe outlet. My mom is very abusive. She would scream at me until I sobbed then scream at me to stop crying. She’d accuse me of “giving her attitude” and then demand I stop defending myself when I tried to explain my side of her accusation. She called me a “fucking idiot,” “moron,” “asshole,” and other names. She would tell me that everyone thinks I’m an awful child and even my godmother– who I am very close with– thought…

raped by my stepdad

When I turned 16, I was very innocent. I also had very low self esteem and now looking back I feel like I had stockholm’s syndrome. He took advantage of me, he was violent both physically and with words. At the begining, he was coming to my bed at night and touching my boobs and I tried so hard to resist, but he was putting so much emotional pressure on me, my mum was really relying on him and this is why I found myself in this position of weakness. Then he was touching me in other places. Then someday…

Twisted up

I found out about my situation after the father who raised me had died, as a result of nearly finding out on my own through DNA evidence, and as a grown adult with a family of my own. I can accept that it was hidden for a time. That part is easy to forgive for awhile. But I was a black sheep, among my peers, among my family, and especially in comparison with my Dad. I think, at least as an adult, I would have had more respect for him had I known. As it was I was duped into…

Is egg donation the same as sperm donation?

My sister is 6 months pregnant with a baby conceived from an egg doner from Spain. Endometriosis destroyed her chances of kids any other way. She is over the moon & I am happy for her but have been doing some reading on the subject which brought me this website. My sister intends to tell her child the truth but only when our parents pass away as they just wouldn’t except it, even I know that (the joys of living in Ireland). Not sure when that will be as they are only mid sixties. My reading up on the subject…

It Takes a Village- thank you Mom

I found this website because I recently told a friend the specifics of how I was conceived and his questions intrigued me. I had no plans of ever making a post of my own until I read a few and felt obligated to share; I feel that there is a point of view not fully expressed on this site. I am a 21 year old DC college student with a twin sister and a single mother, whom I absolutely adore. My experience growing up was never something that bothered me. I consider my Mom to be the strongest and most…

I want to have happy kids.

Im 42 years old now, Im single, I got no partner… Since I was younger kids always come close to me even tho they dont know me, apparently they feel comfortable with my presence, I have plenty of nieces and nephews who loves me. I wanted to have my kids when I knew I was ready to give them a financial stability, but I have just been diagnosed with Premature menopause and Cant have kids by my own, I always thought of removing myself from this world if I could not have kids, and now Im facing my worst fear…Im…

My Father Is Ashamed I Exist

My father, the one who sold his sperm to make me, was receptive when I found him. Maybe even a bit excited. I loved him before I knew his name or his face, but I’ve grown to love him more deeply as I’ve gotten the chance to know him better. We’ve got a lot of similarities, and I’m glad he’s given me the chance to know who he is. My life is richer for it. But he’s keeping me a secret from his family. He doesn’t want them to know he’s got more children out in the world than the…

Re: No One Thought About The Children

I wish you were public with your story. My biodad can’t comprehend the grief I carry and tells me how altruistic he thinks his actions were. I can’t bring myself to tell him how hurt I am, how I can’t grasp how he could have abandoned me, how much grief I carry through life. I’m afraid if I tell him I’ll scare him away and lose him forever. He needs to hear from other donors like you who grasp the full weight of the transaction they participated in. Your thoughts bring me comfort in one sense. I’m constantly told that…

Recibí Ovulos de Donante Anónimo y El Papa de mis Hijos es un Ex-Enamorado

Soy mamá soltera de mellizos gracias a inseminación artificial, soy muy feliz con mis hijos, los tuve a los 47 años Me preguntó si el carácter explosivo de mis hijos, sobretodo el niño, fue heredado de la madre biológica, porque el papá de mis hijos tiene buen carácter y yo también, también me pregunto si tienen el carácter explosivo y la hiperactividad porque son hijos concebidos por inseminación artificial. El padre biológico es un ex enamorado mio y vive en otro pais, les envía un regalo por navidad o cumpleaños todos los años y los visitado 3 veces a mis…