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I want to find my sperm donor dad?

I have two moms and am constantly wondering what it would be like to have a father and who my biological dad is. I’m wondering is there any way to find who he is? im not expecting him to jump and and be some sort of active dad to me i just want to know who he is…

Open egg donation

I just wanted to tell any child conceived through donation, that after reading through your posts, we will only consider egg donation if our future child can contact the donor and meet them if that is what they want. We will not consider anonymous donation, as after much thought, I felt it would leave a void in the child’s life. I had to think long and hard about this, but after getting over my fears about the donor and any relationship she might have with the child, I decided that helping my child would be more important than any fears…

I feel like you are thinking of me, too

This is a letter to my my donor egg child: I have always thought about you since the moment I knew of your existence. I feel you and somehow know that if I saw you on the street,that I would know you. You are the daughter I never had. You are a young woman now and every December I celebrate you. I hope that you are happy and healthy and well loved. I hope that you are raven haired and green eyed like I wish I was. I just want to let you know that if you were part of…

Which is worse…

I have wanted a child from the age of about 17. When my doctor told me I had to do chemo as a result of a kidney autoimmune disorder I cried at the thought of never being able to have a child. My husband of 7 years and I recently tried to get pregnant. We were successful but I had a miscarriage. The heart break was more than I can even begin to express. My heart breaks, at the store, while driving, reading…doing everything. Now I’m thinking do I want to risk giving my child a kidney disease? Do I…

Donor conceived and barren

I’ve known my whole life I was donor conceived there has always been longing to know where I come from. There has been anger, pain, sadness, and emptiness. Now I am old enough to start thinking about having my own family, everyone says I’m a natural I’ll be a great mom and it breaks my heart. Because I can’t have a child of my own I want more than anything to be a mother but I can’t do to a child what was done to me I can’t put a child through that pain. I will never get to meet…

Possible grandparent of donated baby

My son is infertile. He and his wife are desperate for a child, and my son agreed to his wife having IVF with donor sperm. I am already heartbroken that I will never hold his child, and all I can see is problems ahead. The egg has been inplanted and I can only think that one day, although my son will be the greatest dad, one day the child will grow up and want to know the biological dad. This will be more heartbreak for my son. He is the gentlest most caring kindest young man, and the suffering is…

I want to donate

I was considering donating my eggs. I’ve looked through what the process takes and this doesn’t daunt me. I would go through it all if it meant giving a couple a child. Allowing someone who dreamt of having children but couldn’t the chance of having a baby. I really want to do this for someone and am very much aware of the big commitment. I am also aware upon the child’s 18th they can find me. And again if the child contacted me I would not tern them away and give then any information they want. I want stress I…

Confused donor

Hi everyone. I have donated eggs twice and am scheduled for another cycle in the spring. I have just found this website and now I am incredibly confused. I had no idea being donor-conceived was so difficult. The families I have donated to have gone through so much to finally create the children they have wanted for so long, which is the only reason I have been okay with doing this. Yes, I received generous compensation, but you really can’t go through the whole awful process of IVF without real emotional motivation. And now reading all of these stories of…

Don’t you DARE hit MY child!

The only time I remember my dad hitting my mother was when I was a very young child. We were having a family outing and it was a wonderful day, until I began to be a nuisance and irritated my dad. He hit me across my face so hard that I saw stars. My mother had an immediate response and yelled at my dad, “Don’t you DARE hit MY child!”. He hit her across the face even harder. Our beautiful family outing came to an abrupt ending and we immediately headed home, nothing more from either my mother or me…

All I want for my birthday

Theres one thing i was for my 21st birthday and that is to find my donor. I don’t want him to be the father I never had i don’t expect a relationship. All I want is to sit across a table from him and have a cup of coffee and have just one conversation. I want to hear the sound of his voice just once find the similarities in the way we look. know if i have some of the same odd quirks know just enough about you that i can think of you as more than a number. Is…

Im not your real father

The words, “I’m not your real father” will haunt me for the rest of my life. At just 18 and a half my life was turned upside down. Not only did I lose what security and balance I had in my life, but I lost a piece of me and my mind instantly went to a family that I never knew I had. Most donor conceived children either are told when they are young, or can notice small differences between them and other family members and felt left out and lost either entire lives. Surprisingly I never felt this way,…

I ate less tonight

I ate less tonight. I don’t know if you can tell, I mean it’s not like I am starving myself or having a disorder or anything of those sorts. I just thought you should know. I ate less tonight. Maybe you’ll stop telling my skinny body that I eat too much. You made my mind feel fat, worn out, and out of shape. Maybe you insult me because you know it’s the only way for me to be distracted. Your criticism takes away the sadness and hate I have towards you for different reasons and twists everything into an immature…