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Surprising secret of direct donation

I began donating because the partner I was with at the time didn’t want children and also didn’t want me to adopt. Donating was the only middle ground that seemed viable. My family web could grow, but it wouldn’t encumber her life. Ultimately the relationship failed, but I had committed to help several women already. Now that I’m single I’m discovering that all women with baby fever really want to have sex. Even the lesbians. And as it turns out, it’s beautiful. Instead of finding a rebound relationship I care about very little, and ultimately hurting that person, I get…

Unscrupulous Firms, Young Girls, Ovum Donation

As a young woman, I did not plan on having children, but wanted to help other families have children. I was acquainted with a lawyer who was involved in ovum donation and surrogacy, and she was eager to sign me up as a donor. I had high test scores, had graduated from university as well as graduate school, and photographed well. She told me the photos were the first thing people were interested in, but the academic achievements would command a higher price for my “pain and suffering” compensation for donation. That really should trigger ethical alarm bells right there,…

Found out at 37 with two children and a family of my own

My mother was near death, but did not die. She is still alive. My father took it upon himself to confess that he had several affairs to me, I asked if there was more I should know. He said, yes… there was a sperm donor. I am an only child, my parents were around 40 when I was born. My eyes, brown. Both parents blue. I learned about Mendelian genetics in undergrad and I had questions, they could have told me then. My father had testicular cancer at 18 and my parents were married for more than a decade before…

Children of convenience

I have a relative who never had a relationship until she was past 40. She was too wrapped up in her ‘career’, to be bothered meeting anyone. I used to think it was quite a sad but selfish approach to life, but never thought much beyond that. Then she met a much younger guy, who categorically didn’t want kids. Then two months later, they have suddenly changed their minds and were off in search of donor eggs, in one of the few countries where they are guaranteed anonymity. I can’t bring myself to congratulate these people. They have no moral…

Making babies donor style

When I went to university if I’m honest I was wet behind the ears. With boundless optimism and with a care free attitude I decided to register as a sperm donor at a fertility clinic after seeing a recruitment add in some student marketing “want to give an infertile couple the gift of life, become a sperm donor- £15 per donation”. I registered an interest and was soon invited to attend an assessment where I learnt about the desperate need for donors and the whole process of donation, including how they would have to collect regular weekly samples for freezing…

Dealing with it

I’m 16 year old girl. I love to draw, write, and post lame pictures on snapchat. I also am a sperm donor baby. My single mother didn’t really know how to tell me about my biological father. I remember being a little confused about it, and a bit angry when she put aside my questions with a “when you’re older”. Kids my age asked me about it sometimes, and I would love to see the expressions on their faces when I told them that I didn’t have a dad, and never had. My little 6 year old self would revel…

Conned out of my eggs

I’ll keep my story short and not-sweet, mostly because it’s painful to tell and I want to leave out some specifics for now. I signed on with a new egg donor agency, and repeatedly told them verbally and in writing that I am highly opposed to anonymous donation. I felt it was immoral to hide the truth from children. I was clear from the beginning that I was only interested in open donation, and was matched with a couple whom I was told felt the same way. We were all of an ethnic minority, so they were eager to have…

Conceived by Donor, Became a Donor

I became an egg donor at age 23. At the time I didn’t have a good reason for why, but something compelled me to pursue it. I could write a whole story on the medical process and the arduous toll the whole thing took on my body, but that’s for another time. I never really thought about it much after that. I never told my parents, even though I probably should have. I did tell my younger brother because I needed him to procure some baby pictures for my profile. My boyfriend (who is now my husband) was very supportive,…

My Parents Don’t Know That I Know

It has only been a week since I discovered being donor conceived and I haven’t told my parents yet. I found out through a DNA test that linked me to my donor’s sister who had coincidently taken the DNA test as well. This is a one in probably several millions of a chance occurrence. But her knowledge of the time and location link up with the modified version of the truth my parents have given me. My parents, like many others, had problems conceiving. I always thought they had a procedure done that included my dad’s sperm. Apparently not. I…

Do Not Seek Info

Short story. I was raised by lesbians, etc. Never really bugged me. Never wanted to meet my “real” dad. I stumbled on this site and was shocked to discover that like 80% of sperm donor kids want to meet their real dad. I still don’t really get why. I think that’s strange. Do you think he has answers for you? Will he tell you who you are? I never wanted to have anything to do with my dad. I was afraid that if I found out about him, he wouldn’t be nearly as cool as the people who raised me,…

Confession of a loving wife

I love my husband so much I would do morally questionable things to protect him and make him happy. We have been trying for a year to get pregnant with zero success. Ive had blood work and ultrasounds done, fearing I was infertile since I had major abdominal trauma, my mom had both endometriosis and breast cancer, and my paternal grandmother had breast cancer twice. But my medical tests all came back normal. My husband is diabetic, and knowing my stepdad who was diabetic was also sterile, I fear my husband is also sterile. I could make him get fertility…

They lied to me.

In the late 90’s I donated my eggs. It was supposed to be a known donation. I chose the family, or was it really the other way around? Was I exploited for my eggs? We knew each other intimately. I stayed at their home before retrieval. I met the family. The most important thing to me was they tell the children from the start. No one should get a shock about their genetic and ancestral origins. The parents lied and told me they never told you because they are “private” people. They promised to tell you later, when you were…