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Dear – I’M GOING TO DO IT

Dear – I’m going to do it. I am/was a donor (once a donor always a donor I guess) and I agree very strongly with your perspective. I am of the male side of scenarios like this, and getting bashed for being a donor. You have no reason to feel guilty or be apologetic, and I refuse to accept guilt from my side. You have the same right as any woman to be a mother, and with modern medical technology you can find a man that has the traits you want to see in your child. People have always done…

PLEASE, Just adopt a child in need

Prospective adults of sperm/egg donation, please listen. I’m a DC child and growing up without knowing my father has destroyed me. It has given me depression, anxiety, abandonment issues, “daddy issues” and just every day sadness. I personally think that Anonymous sperm and egg “donation” should be illegal. I know you want that perfect little baby who is biologically yours, but that baby is also 50% some stranger that you and they will never ever get to meet. They will resent you for signing away their rights to meet their father/mother. Adopting a child is so much better for everyone….

Considering conceiving via donor, but worried by testimonies – perspectives?

I am a 37 year old woman considering conceiving a child via a donor, and came on to this site as I wanted to know how donor-conceived children felt about their origin. I am now very concerned having read some of the testimonies on here that it can have a really negative impact on the child – in some cases to the point that they seem to wish they had not been born – and I would like to know further perspectives. In particular I would like to know if there are ways to mitigate the difficulties, for example, being…

It’s not easy – I agree!

My wife and I (hetrosexual couple) have had five tries of ivf and three iui. We’ve had a miscarriage from one ivf at our second scan. That was one of the most painful things to experience. I will never forget the cries of my wife when there was no heartbeat on the scan. I’ve never heard her cry like that before. It was a silent miscarriage, so the foetus had to be removed. We have been suffering trying to get pregnant but our changes are very low. Both of our tests are poor and we have both tried. So to…

Unknown

Hello my name is Liv, I’m from Argentina and was born thanks to an in vitro. Ever since I was little I was told that I wanted to know the identity of the sperm donor, but as my mother could be considered one of the pioneers of such technique is a task quite difficult to achieve. I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have a father that I want to know the identity of simply because I feel that it feels quite strange walking around the city wondering which of the men who are around me could be my…

Dad, not donor

My dad is my biological dad and he raised me. I signed up for a DNA site and found many half siblings. I’m realizing he was a sperm donor before I was born. I have the answers my newly found genetic relatives may be looking for. I haven’t made contact with them. For all they know, my profile is another person who doesn’t know their biological dad. My dad donated with anonymity and still wants that. How could I not respect that? I’ve been trying to learn about this community since I made this discovery. It seems there are varying…

Where’s my happiness?

This would be the first time I express myself. I guess even love can forget that a person exists. Sometimes I question myself if god even listens to me when I cry, pray, or even feel down. I’m getting tired of drinking from the same cup of life, always being fed the lies “love will come your way” or “you’ll meet the right person.” Ive grown to view these quotes as myths, they dont exist, I guess I really dont belong anywhere. I have a crush on this girl whom Iam hoping to have a relationship with but i am…

Seek and Ye Shall Find

I was in my 20’s, living in a state far from where I grew up. I was single and working at a major university when I saw an ad for sperm donors. I called the number listed and set up an appointment. At the appointment I filled out a long questionnaire and was required to leave a semen sample. At some point I was given a physical by a doctor, but I think this may have been on a subsequent visit. The man who was “in charge” of the donors showed me my sperm under a microscope. My count wasn’t…

So Much Bitterness

I have noticed a lot of bitterness here for donors, sperm and egg. There also seems to be a degree of hostility toward parents of donor children. Everyone knows that adopting a child is a complicated, expensive and often heartbreaking process. While giving a child in need a home is wonderful, why should a woman forgo motherhood if she can’t afford the expense. As far as that goes, why should she not have the right to her own biological child, unless she wants to take the risk of picking someone up in a bar, which appears to be more acceptable…

Turns out, it wasn’t unsaleable after all!

Hi folks – you might remember my story from: My Unsaleable Semen back in 2013 where I described my experience as a semen donor who – as I was led to believe – had unsaleable semen because I was adopted and had no information about my genetic parents. Well guess what – life has a way of surprising one…back in 2015 or so, I sent my DNA in for testing by Ancestry in the hopes of finding out more about my genetic background. I found some second and third cousins, but no help in identifying my birth parents – so…

Beautiful Blessing

My sweet donor conceived baby girl turns one month old tomorrow. As I watch her sleeping in her crib, I can’t help wonder about her donor. I wonder if he knows about this beautiful blessing he gave us. I wonder what features she inherited from him. I am so thankful for him and what he did. We tried to conceive for 6 years before we became pregnant. My husband was born sterile and this was a complete shock to both of us. The hurt and pain from infertility is unreal and we are so grateful to no longer be in…

Dear “WHY DO I FEEL SO GUILTY?”

I feel the exact same way. I’m also a donor conceived daughter of a single mom and it pains me to know how selfish her decision was in having me. My mom was 42, never dated and needed someone in her life. By removing my father legally (with out even giving me the chance) she has sole custody and control over my life. It’s not right I agree with you. I’d love to talk to you more.