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Message to Donor Conceived children

Dear donor conceived children! I am a mum to our sperm donor daughter! I won’t lie this wasn’t how I imagined having my family. I was pocked, prodded, injected with medications. My husband too. He has Azoosperima a condition where sperm do not mature. We tried every option but ultimately we had no other choice. In Scandinavia we were not even allowed to select our donor. We know she will be able to find out information about him when she is 18. We are very pleased about this and will support her in doing so. She knows that daddy’s sperm…

News to me at 22.

I am 22 years old and I just found out that I was conceived through sperm donation. This information was withheld from me for my entire life until now. I was born into a loving, happy family. My parents have had a strong admirable marriage for nearly 25 years. I never would have imagined that my father was not the biological male who contributed to my existence. I was and still am very understanding of the circumstances. They so desperately wished to have a child that they used an unconventional method to achieve it. Initially, the hardest part was understanding…

To the author of With Deep Sadness…

I am the mother of a donor-conceived child. I had him with my wife of 10 years. We opted for a donor who is open ID, which means he’s willing to be contacted when his children are 18. We joined a Facebook group of families conceived by our donor and we keep in touch regularly. We have the children meet up when we can and we’re having our first big group meet-up next month! Most of the children unhappy with being donor-conceived are sad, I think, because they felt lied to (if their parents were never honest from the get-go)…

I fucking hate my life for this

Hi! Long story short, I wouldn’t have minded not looking like my “social dad” if it wasn’t for one simple reason. I am 20cm shorter. It feels terrible and because of that I found out who the biological father is and I have been sitting for 5hrs and just looked at pictures of him and his children. Aka my half siblings. I just feel really weird and there is just so much going on right now. I am not really against sperm donation but please, do all in your power to make the child looks like the “social father”.

I was a normal teen age boy.

I know there is a a little girl out there that is a part of me. Some day I will see her and hold her and cry a tear when I do. I know she is there because I have almost caught up with her a few times. I have seen but do not have pictures of her . The story goes I was 15 and loved to build things . My uncle and aunt had a shop where they repaired cars and I walked there after school and would hand them tools and change oil and things. Well I…

Damaged

Well, I found this website where I found a lot of people who I can relate to and a lot of people that I don’t. I know that I should be thankful for being alive and all of that bull shit. However instead I suffer from abandonment, depression,and identity issues. No I didn’t self diagnose myself with those things my therapist did, yea therapist because I’m all screwed up and I need someone to fix me but I can’t be fixed because my situation isn’t something that can be fixed. So let’s go to the beginning, my mom is an…

Hard Life

I have been reading and researching on donor sperms and donor eggs and how children born out of such assistance feel. I am on the other end of the spectrum; we have been married for more than 7 years and with three miscarriages and the recently discovered sperm morphology defect, our chances of having our own children have diminished considerably. We are heart broken and it seems our dream to love, care and nurture our child is but waning into darkness. I feel sad to read some of the stories here from donor-conceived children of anger and hate against their…

Dear John Doe

Dear donor, there are a multitude of questions I have wanted to ask you that have crossed my mind throughout my life. One of them that keeps haunting me is why. Why did you donate in the first place? I have come to the conclusion that there are a theee ways this could be answered, 1. You needed money and found it convenient that one could get paid to do something the majority of men do 4-7 times a week, without actually thinking what you were doing. 2. Your ego was so large that you felt that you needed to…

I’m going to do it

I’ve read a lot of stories here bashing women who conceive through sperm donation and I think it’s not fair.I have decided to go down this route because I’m in my forties and time is running out . I don’t have time to get into a relationship and get to know someone who might then decide they don’t want to have kids, neither am i one of those dishonest women who will seep with any man with the intention of getting pregnant without his consent. Noooo , that’s not me !! I am a good person and have worked in…

The gift of life or the gift of solitude?

34 years ago my mother decided that it was time for her to have a child. With her biological clock ticking and no long term relationship in sight, she turned to an anonymous sperm donor. She probably thought like most women would: “I’ll give my baby enough love for two”. I was indeed a loved baby…but baby must grow. As a child the idea of my father rarely crossed my mind as I believed that I was “special”…in a good way. It was only when I was ask to present my family tree in front of my class that I…

Why won;t you talk to me or tell me who my birth father is?

I was put up for adoption at about 6 months of age. I am not sure if I was taken by DYFUS or other. At age 27 my parents finally told us the truth. I was not surprised as the first picture they have of me was me sitting up holding a stuffed elephant. So, after getting married and having my own kids I decided to do a search for health reasons and out of curiosity. So I went to the place everyone goes for information. Internet. I found a wonderful group of people called ” Search Angels”. They located…