The Anonymous Us Project is a safety zone for real and honest insights regarding third party reproduction (sperm & egg donation, and surrogacy). We aim to share the experiences of people whose lives have been affected by third party reproduction while preserving the dignity and privacy for story-tellers and their loved ones.

All stories are contributed anonymously because "anonymity in reproduction hides the truth, but anonymity in story-telling helps reveal the truth."

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My boyfriend “donated” sperm.

Now that we’re serious I’m concerned about this and the ethics of sperm donation in general. I don’t like that sperm banks separate families across the globe and I don’t support the commodification of children. I don’t like that they disparage half-siblings, simply because they share one biological parent so it shouldn’t matter if they’re separated according to the logic of some people. It’s a very lucrative business that’s protected by the people that are desperate to have their “own” children. Since blood relations are so important to them, don’t they think that their children will wonder who their biological…

The day I failed to become a father and had to let my wife convince me donation sperm was a good idea.

To experience infertility is one of life’s unlucky situations. I’ve known about my infertility for many years, but the feeling of loss is still as raw as it has ever been. I was lucky enough to conceive one child thru ivf with my previous partner. But time has moved along and am now re married and its back to that place I always dreaded. After many cycles of unsuccessful treatment I’m faced with the painful decision to use donor sperm. I thought it would be an easier choice than it has been. I feel the emotions of my childless partner…

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