All Anonymous Us Stories

The bank I donated at didn’t allow you to be an open donor unless you were 21. Thus I was an anonymous donor. But not because I am opposed to meeting or interacting with any of my donor-conceived offspring. Just a PSA for those who might not know.

I am both a birth parent to an adopted child, and the wife of an infertile husband. Reading your story broke my heart to think that donor conceived children might feel that way. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t wish I had “kept” my adopted child, even though that child is an adult now and we have had a semi-open adoption. I love my child, with everything that I am. Since discovering my husbands inability to have a biological child with me, I have mourned the loss of the child that will never be. We…

To be ushered into this world, is a miracle…to be raised with values, morals and goals by a single parent is indescribable. I decided to have a child via insemination, knowing my daughter would question my choice. And so I told her, as I tell you. some children arent born with the luxury of parents, some children are unfortunately born into abuse, some children aren’t wanted and so they are sold, beaten, killed, thrown away and worse. Some children have wonderful lives, with 2 great parents, a beautiful home, great education and long lasting memories…you were born to me and…

Dear Dad, I do not know your name, or half of my own real name (my last name). I may die without ever knowing anything about half of me and all of you. You will never know the amount of pain you have caused me, nor the amount of joy. You gave me life yet you deprived me of my basic rights. I know the names of eight out of at least sixteen of my half siblings and have met six of them. I will always be curious. Do we look alike? What are you like? Do you think about…

I don’t know how to put my feelings in words here. I am not much of a writer and really don’t know how to write what i am feeling right now. Recently (2 days ago) my mum called me in the middle of night sobbing on the phone (i thought my grandma passed away) telling me how sorry she and my dad were for loving my sister more than me. Initially i thought they were playing some prank on me but later on when she went on explaining things it started hitting me that all these years what i thought…

INTERNET CONVERSATION ON A DONOR CONCEPTION DISCUSSION SITE Two Mommies are better than one. Two Mommies are better than one? We don’t need a man in our family plan. Two Mommies are better than one! I’m a single Mom by Choice. A single Mom by Choice? I’m better than you and I don’t need two. I’m a single Mom by Choice! We’re a couple without any swimmers. A couple without any swimmers? The donor and me and dear hubby makes three. We’re a couple without any swimmers! I had premature menopause. Premature menopause? I’m my baby’s real Mum ’cause she…

I have written about my non-existent father on here before, and all of my negative feelings still remain, but today I realized how selfish I am for feeling that way sometimes. I have friends that listen to their parents fight every night as they sit through the walls of their room listening. I have friends with parents in such a nasty divorce that their clothing and belongings are shipped from house to house in a box. Yet I sit here complaining about loneliness, when the whole time all of these people probably long for that peace and quiet. Today I…

I am a mother of one child been in a relationship for 16 years our child is nearly 14 and my husband and son are my world. I mentioned to my husband that I’d like another child now our son is older at the time he was nearly 4, but young enough to grow and blossom with a sibling also have a friend. We started trying which was great 😉 the love making the love for eachother the closeness was amazing after a year of trying with no luck we both put it down to stresses of his long hours…

Dear dad, Why? Why did u make it a closed donation? Why did you decide you never wanted to be there for me? Did you know or could you guess that I cry myself to sleep thinking of you, that I am crying writing this? Did u ever wonder how I would answer the questions? Or the genealogy reports in middle school? My friends don’t understand, NO ONE understands! I tried to tell my friends, one of them said it was COOL!! To not have a dad, to never know if this trait was from you, or my mother. She…

Dear Father, Dad, Unknown, [insert 3 digit ID], I have no ONE specific feeling for you. If you are dead, I hope you thought of me and your children in life. If you are alive, you are a coward if you are not trying to contact or find us. For so long you were absent in my mind and now you are everywhere. Except, you aren’t really here. -From: One of your 14 anonymous children

You are my father. But that doesn’t make you my dad. You gave me life. I owe everything I have to you. Without you I wouldn’t exist. I wouldn’t be typing this letter. The lives of everyone I am connected to would completely change if I was not here. I want to thank you for that. Thank you for giving me the ability to walk, talk, laugh, love, cry and shout. The ability to jump, sing, dance and grieve. Thank you for giving me the chance to make something out of myself. Thank you for giving me the chance to…

I am going to be donating and have some curiosity as to what the child will look like over the years…I am currently in the process of a known egg donation and the parents are using a surrogate. From those that have received eggs from one individual and then used a surrogate, is anyone ever open to sharing a pic in a letter once a year or something similar? I do want to at least know when the baby is born and the name. Is this expecting too much? I don’t have any maternal type feelings but at the end…